A philosophy that I have developed over time is "just keep putting one foot in front of the other". So many times in my past I have worried about what lies ahead that it leaves me in a state of paralysis and I spend most of my life worrying that I am not moving forward. As long as I keep putting one foot in front of the other, I know I'm moving in the right direction. And as I look back on my life each small step created something amazing. What one small step can you take today?
For many years I had lived as a victim of all the abuse that happened to me in my past and as a result I felt like I was imprisoned by the energy of the abuse for ever.
My life seems to be moulded by my past and there was no doubt that it was affecting my present. I came to the conclusion that unless I dealt with this hurt and pain it would only continue to affect my future.
After seeking the help of countless professionals, I started to break through the hard layer which I had built around me to protect me from from the pain and the light began to shine through. I took me along time to realise that everything that had happened to me was indeed a gift.
It opened my heart to new levels of loving that through my layers of protection I would never ever have learned to experience. I became patient, softer and I was able to tolerate more than I was ever able to tolerate before. So, in essence I started to be able to view all that had happened to me as a gift and realise that I would not be who I am today without that precious gift. Question is if I had a choice to relive that, would I? And the answer is a big fat yes. Because of the gifts and life experience that I gained as a result, I actually like who I am today and I am able to relate to many people on many levels. To me, this is a gift not just to myself but also to the world.
This quote really reminds me of one of my favourite sayings which goes like this "if you always do what you've always done, you will always get what you have always got". In order for us to get somewhere different, we do need to make a choice and usually that does involve taking a chance. Otherwise our life won't ever change.
It is very easy for us to take life for granted at times and for our focus to go on everything that we don't have. I can't tell amount of times that I have lost sight of all the positive's in my life and focused mainly on the negative's. It certainly was a very destructive cycle for me to get into. The day I started to train myself to look for the positives, was the day that my life turned around, for good. I started to recognise that within every challenge there was an opportunity. An opportunity to become wiser and stronger. To count my blessings and realise just how rich I am. The clothes on my body, the roof over my head and the food in my stomach. How these very things are indeed a miracle and how easy for me to take these basic things for granted. I train myself to look for the good, and I see the good everywhere.
I can't tell you how many times I have fallen down in life. How many times I've been on my knees and prayed to the heavens for some emotional relief. Life certainly knows how to give us a lemons and I had no choice but to learn to make lemonade. I say 'no choice' and I mean it only in the way that I was determined to live a better life; so the only choice for me was to learn from the challenge's life presented me and to become wiser and stronger for them. I make it sound simple, believe me it wasn't at all! What drove me was a deep desire inside of me to create a better life for myself. A life full of connected relationships, a job which brings me deep meaning and purpose and to wake up in the morning excited and ready to embrace a new day rather than dreading what was coming. Working on my mindset has been crucial in me getting to this point. Learning to see life as being the glass half full, rather than the glass half empty. I actively look for my blessings when I am going through challenges because this grounds me and reminds me that there is so much good going on in my life even though the challenge tries to suck me in with the power a Dyson Hoover. When I focus on all the good that is going on, it weakens the power and strength of the challenge. I am able to keep my energy in check, stay spiritually strong which means that I am more likely to get through the challenge stronger and wiser, having learned something valuable to take forward as a gift into my future.
It is such an important part of our transformation and growth to learn that 'We are the dreamer of our dream'. (Gabrielle Bernstein). We truly do get to write the script of our life and have more choice that we realise. We can choose to write a new story, to show up differently in our day to day living and relationships and claim our inherent right of free choice.
It is nice to know we no longer need to live in the automated robotic existence which leaves us believing that 'this is our lot'. No wonder we feel lost, uneasy and fed up with the daily treadmill we call our 'lives'.
We can break free from all that automation and live a life where we look through the lenses of colour, vibrancy and purpose. We get to choose differently.
We had night three of our Law of Attraction eight week course last night and I have to say as the weeks pass it gets more inspiring. We discovered just how much we are in control of the reality that we experience and at any moment we can choose to change the way we react and respond to our world. We discussed if we want to break old patterns and cycles then we need to "show up differently". Reminding ourselves that if we always do what we have always done, we will always get what we have always got.
We looked at some of the most influential "changemakers" of our time and the tools that they utilise in order to create life the way they choose it to be. Knowing that we can at any point break any patterns and cycles and steer our life in the direction that we would like it to go. Safe to say, it was a very inspiring night! We all left feeling a new zest for life and renewed inspiration and motivation to focus and create new goals of how we would like our life to be.
I found this photo and I have to say it really did make me giggle. I love the fact that the languages real. No fluffy fancies here. Wouldn't it be nice if we could just let go of the shit that suffocate our soul? To slowly be able to remove one old crusty layer at a time to reveal a beautiful diamond within? There have been times in my life that I thought that the letting go is a nice idea, but it's just that - a nice idea. Only since journeying I have seen that actually it is possible to let go of the things that suffocate our soul. I can't pretend that it's been an easy journey, but it has been one that is well worth it. And thinking about it, I can't say I have let go as such but I have transformed a lot of old feelings into new feelings and as a result my world really has changed. Yours can too.
I spent so much of my life wishing that it was different that I was never actually present in the moment enjoying and appreciating what I already have. Living in the future in this way always created an uneasiness and an anxiety which governed my thoughts, feelings and actions. This deep sense of unease and apprehension followed me every day.
It wasn't until I started to learn to appreciate everything I have in this moment and learning to be present that I actually started to feel more settled in life and then could become excited about the potential of what I could choose to create for my future because when I am feeling anxious and apprehensive I don't feel I have much choice about what I am creating. When I'm feeling calm and appreciative of what I have in the present moment, it creates a gentle opening in my mind and I can vision something positive for my future and actually get excited about it.
This balance was tricky to establish at first, as it is with establishing any new behaviour. However when I find myself drifting into the anxiety of the future, I bring myself into the present moment and feel the appreciation for everything that I have right now. This brings an enormous sense of calm to my being.
Meditation and mindfulness practices are really great and helping to establish many life enhancing qualities. If it's something you haven't tried before, I highly recommend giving it a go. If there is a practice that you have dabbled with before, it is worth trying it again and being consistent with your practice in order to truly gain the benefits.
I love this poem by Roald Dahl and from my experience, every word is true! If we live in a world full of negativity, bitterness jealousy and even hatred; it begins to show on our face. We show signs of this bitterness and somehow tend to repel the love we desire as well as the life that we would like to live. We are locked into a negative matrix of energy and sink deeper into the negativity.
Person who lives with good thoughts, seems to have an internal beauty and glow that radiates through their being. And Roald Dahl is absolutely right, it doesn't matter what they look like, if a person has an kindness and love they have a beauty that shines through them like sunbeams and always look beautiful. They will attract loving relationships and a life that lights them up from inside out.
Such a great reminder as there are times we all tend to get caught up in the negative web of life. And poems like this tend to remind us and put us back on the path of love.
For many years I was locked in emotional darkness and I had no idea that I was unaware that I was unaware. It was only when I became aware, could I actually start to change things. Therefore, for me, I believe that having awareness is the key to change. Without being aware of areas that need changing, I couldn't change at all. I would spend years beating myself up for the negative traits within me or within my life and little did I realise that this awareness of this negativity was actually a positive thing and the very key to profound and long lasting change. By being aware of it, it meant that I could change it! Without awareness, I was locked in the painful pattern without even knowing about it.
How many of us are locked in a cycle of beating ourselves up because of the negativity we witness in our selves or in our lives? And how different would our life would be if we celebrated this awareness and used it in our favour to make positive changes? Over time I have trained myself to witness negative things as an opportunity to grow and instead of focusing on the negativity. I now ask myself "why is this happening for me?" instead of "why is this happening to me?".
I can't tell you how many times I have repeated the same patterns and cycles! It took me awhile to realise that this was happening, but when I did it really opened my eyes to how I was attracting a "common theme" into my life over and over again. The faces of the people were different, but the lessons always seemed to be the same. I came to realise that the only common denominator in all of these events, was me. Even though this shocked me at the time, it was a great turning point for me in my life. It meant that I had the ability to change what ever it was that I was doing that was attracting it. The old saying came to mind "if you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always got". It meant that if I kept showing up in life with the same thoughts and behaviours, I would continuously get the same results. I didn't want the same results! I was trapped in this painful pattern. So, it meant I need to start doing things differently. That is when I embarked on a journey to look deeper into my own belief patterns, behaviours and emotions. The healing journey I can't say was easy, but it was well worth it. I have broken these destructive cycles and created new healthy ones and boy does it feel good!
Hey everyone, thought I would record this short video before my Law of Attraction class last night to give you the heads up of some of the content. I have to say we all extremely enjoyed last night and left feeling rather uplifted with a renewed sense of inspiration and hope for life. It was so lovely to share the wisdom that I have gained over the years and help other people to connect to the power within them in order to create the life that they truly desire. It was a wonderful reminder to keep on top of our "thoughts" as our thoughts are massively creative. They determine how we feel and how we feel determines how we see the world, which in turn determines how we react. So we learnt that our thoughts are the seed level of creation. It was lovely to also share some of the science behind the Law of Attraction so that it is not just some kind of spiritual WHOO and something much more tangible instead.
"When life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means it's going to launch you into something great" Had I of read this many years ago when I was going through most of my difficulties, I would never ever have believed it. I felt like I was so consumed with darkness and challenges of life that it was like my arrow was constantly being pulled back. I never actually felt like my arrow was ever being launched into something great.
It was a change of mindset that actually helped me to launch my arrow and to realise that as long as I had a vision and I focused on that vision, when my arrow launched it would aim in the right direction.
I perceive challenges differently these days. I perceive them merely as an obstacle to overcome, a door to something amazing and an opportunity to grow. I perceive challenges as an opportunity to "make me" instead of "break me". Each time I overcome a challenge, I've become wiser and stronger. Essentially I've trained myself to perceive challenges as positive and the key to my ultimate success.
I have come to realise that if I want to live a peaceful life, first I must find peace inside. If I want to attract love into my life, first I must learn to love myself. In fact, anything that I want to attract in life, I must first learn to become. As the old saying goes 'what we give out we get back'. This means if I give out love, love will return to me. If I give out feelings of peace and calm, I will have a peaceful and calm life. What goes on inside of me, is directly reflected in my world. I have learnt that there is no use trying to change the components in my life without changing me first. Trying to change the components of my life is frustrating and unless I change the very thing that is creating the components of my life – which is me, nothing else will change either. As Gandhi says "be the change you want to see in the world".
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
Life Coach Southampton