Be careful around me! Too much time in my company may have you believing anything is possible. You may feel ridiculously upbeat and empowered. Be warned!
I used to think that the challenges I went through in life were a punishment. That somebody somewhere, or even up there or God or who ever, was punishing me and I truly believed that if there was a God I wouldn't suffer so much pain. Little did I know that the challenges I went through were all part of a much bigger plan and were designed to make me stronger, wiser and more enlightened.
I soon began to realise that the "universe would shake me up, to wake me up". Even though these challenges were extremely painful and challenging at the time, when I realised this, somehow it seemed to make the challenges a bit more palatable and meaningful.
Being ourselves is one of the most freeing gifts we can give ourselves! We tend to suppress who we are and how we express ourself through fear of judgement. Guess what?!? I have come to the conclusion in life that "no matter what we do, we will be judged anyway!". So, we may as well live life the way we want to live it and be who we truely are! Freedom!
Countless times in my life I tried to be something that I wasn't because I wanted to "fit in" with everyone else. I try to be someone else in the vain hope that I would be more likeable, more acceptable and more lovable.
In fact, I tried to be someone else because the truth was I didn't really like who I was. It was only after going on an incredible journey that I discovered this about myself and was able to then work on the aspects of myself that I tried to make perfect. The aspects that I tried to change to fit in. The aspects that I was clearly so deeply dissatisfied about myself.
What a liberation to finally learn to be 'me'. Not to have to fix me, change me or be something that I am not. Just to be 'me'. And I learnt that who I am, is perfect in her imperfection. What a liberation. Learn how you can do the same.
It is not what happens to us that makes the difference, it is what we do with what happens to us that makes the difference!
Lets get totally real folks, life can get really crappy at times. It's not the Hollywood breeze that we pine for it to be. Yes, it is full of challenges. Yes, it is full of heartache. And yes, it can sometimes feel like such an uphill battle we wonder what the point is sometimes.
Everybody, yes, everybody goes through challenges. Despite that we might see on social media of what we perceive other peoples lives to be "perfect". Life is challenging, there is absolutely no getting away from it.
What we can do though is find and utilise some really awesome tools to soften the blow. We can learn that we have an incredible power within us to focus our awareness and our attention on what desire and change things pretty quickly. We learn that when we focus our intention life becomes magical. So when shit happens, we know exactly what to do to deal with it!
There have been countless times in my life that I have looked up to the heavens and prayed for something more to happen in my life. I have either been stuck, brokenhearted or just plain lost. As I looked up to the skies, with the hope that someone is listening, I would pray, sometimes beg and scream for something to change.
It took me awhile to realise that indeed I had to be the change that I wanted to see in my world. My whole world was merely a reflection of my own inner being and if I wanted to experience a different world I had to change the film that I was projecting. So didn't matter how much I shouted up to the heavens, unless I was willing to make some changes, nothing would change.
I became the change and my life changed too. When I shifted, do universe pulled out all stops and boom, my life changed.
I have come to the conclusion that it is part of life to go through challenges. I have yet to meet somebody who manages to escape them all together! Over the years my views on challenges have changed somewhat. I used to view changes as something that was happening "too me". I used to shout out to the heavens "why me?!". I often thought if there is a God up there why would he be punishing me like this.
It was only over time that I began to realise that everything I was experiencing in my life was somehow self created. Yup! That was quite a big piece of wisdom to get my head around but as a years of past I realise that actually indeed what I was experiencing was the effects of a previous cause.
Living that way rendered me powerless. My days seemed like a struggle and there was no doubt I was just in survival mode.
When I started to realise that challenges where an awesome way to make me stronger, wiser and more compassionate – I started to viee challenges in a completely different way. I saw them as an opportunity to "make me". I began to realise it was all in my mind set. And the way that I view the world was the way that I was experiencing the world. I also realised that my view of the world was merely an old pattern and program which no longer served me anymore and any given moment I had the ability to update the program with something that I actually enjoyed experiencing.
There is no point in having a dream if you're not willing to take steps to make the dream come true. The dream can only come to you when you start to walk towards your dream. Simple.
Dreams Come True
I slowly transitioned from a full on meat diet (being South African I totally love meat) to eating a full on vegan diet. I mainly started due to severe health issues and was, quite frankly, desperate to find anything that would help me live pain-free. Each day was like walking on nails and I soon became physically tired and emotionally exhausted. When you're that poorly you are literally willing to try anything! So enter the vegan diet. I have to say to start with it was all about "how I felt". Even though it was on my mind that animals were suffering it was never really at the front of my consciousness. When I started exploring vegan diets I came across a whole host of material which quite frankly, shocked and disgusted me! How human being is can treat other beings in that manner made me feel appalled at being human. I could no longer contribute to the suffering on this planet and decided that it was not only for my health that I would become a vegan but for those beautiful animals that don't have a voice and yet are treated in ways that are like living in hell on earth. So not only do I feel bloody amazing, but I feel that I am a voice for those gorgeous animals too. Vegan rocks in all ways, its win- win xx
I can any only apologise for the somewhat blue language of this post, but it does have something pretty empowering about it too! I've spent countless times in my life worrying about what other people think of me, how I look and whether I'm good enough. There had to come a time when I say 'enough is enough' and not let anyone else's opinions mess with my Mojo. Learning not to let anyone mess with my flow was the most liberating thing I have ever done - freedom from the constraints of the effects of others! Boom! Life became better ....
ha ha! I read this and it really made me giggle. Not just because of the real language it uses that because it was so true for me at one point in my life. I seemed to focus more on my bullshit and wondered why I kept receiving more of it! I didn't realise I had power inside of me to focus on my dreams and actually create them. I didn't realise that what my 'attention goes, energy flows'. I certainly didn't know that I was in control of creating my life and the thoughts I was thinking was creating my reality. I was asleep! When I woke up to this truth everything started to change. I started to focus on what I wanted and was amazed that actually started coming to me. BOOM! Life stopped feeling like Groundhog Day and actually had meaning and purpose.
If your life was a film and people were watching it, would they notice more good bits than bad bits? I asked myself this very question a many years ago and the answer was a definite "they would notice more bad bits!" My health was in a shocking state, I seemed to be on a constant emotional rollercoaster and my relationships mirrored the devastation of my inner being. I seemed to be attracting and creating life experience's that certainly was not lighting me up from inside out! Being a self-help junkie for many years I have accrued many tools to change it thank god. And through all the "bad bits", I grew from within and have now created something pretty bloody awesome.
I came across this video on Facebook and found it really interesting! News and social media give us the impression that we are living in very unsafe times. The statistics on this video show that actually this is the safest time to be alive.
I went on a negativity diet years ago and this consisted of not reading trashy magazines, watching the news or reading the newspaper. I found that by partaking in those activities it made me feel bad and filled me with negativity, dread and gloom. On one hand it may be like I am burying my head in the sand but on the other hand I found myself feeling less safe in the world the more I watched and that changed the way that I showed up the world.
This video is geartening as it show's statistics that we are living in the safest time ever and that brings me great relief. Plus I find it super interesting!
The video also shows how we are being programmed in our every day lives and how we can learn to reprogram ourselves positively. I totally love the world of positive programming and believe every minute of it. Ever since I started to positively program my mind, things started changing and for the better!
Good morning! I was up so bright and breezy and I can't deny that this morning I felt a little bit groggy when my alarm went off. The first thing I did was have a lovely little meditate, which really start's my day off well. It means I enter the day feeling calm and relaxed and as a result I am able to deal with whatever challenges come my way.
I was scrawling through my phone and I found this inspirational quote that over the years has helped me to make it through some lifes events. I'm a great believer that if "it is ours by divine right then itwill come to us and what is not ours must leave". This can be challenging piece of wisdom at the time we are going through life changes, especially if it is something we perceive that we want to keep hold of. Somehow, somewhere learning to trust the universe has been one of my greatest assets. Even though it can be painful letting something go, I trust that whatever is coming is even better.
Have you ever heard of the saying "it is always darkest before dawn"? I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to give up when the going gets tough. I just want throw my hands in the air in (excuse the language) and say "fuck it". Life can be really tricky and challenging at times and we all experience that moment where we just feel like giving up.
Take heart! It is in my experience that at those times we are just about to break through. That is just about the moment when the miracle is about to occur. So my message for today is, 'don't give up just before the miracle occurs'. Have a super day and much love xxx
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
Life Coach Southampton