I don't know about you but I spent many years trying to control what was happening in my life. Little did I know that by doing so - it was an empty and exhausting battle. True freedom came when I learnt to control the way that I responded to what was happening. Yes, that is where I discovered my power truly was. That alone helped me to break free from many destructive patterns and cycles – I found true freedom! So in essence I learnt that I cannot control circumstances, all I can do is control the way I react to them. Reminding myself "it is not what happens to me that makes a difference, it is what I do with what happens to me that makes a difference".
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
Life Coach Southampton