This information was a real eye-opener for me, to say the least. In a way it helped me to understand why certain relationships in my life had broken down and how through continuing certain behaviour patterns it weakened the relationships. Having this knowledge and understanding is one thing and doing something about it is another. How can we do something about it if we don't have the tools?
What might be a deposit for you could very well be a withdrawal for another person. Without truly understanding the person we may think we are making deposit when actual fact we are making withdrawals. When too many withdrawals happen in a relationship, trust starts to so and the walls of defence grow higher. Can you think of a time in your life when somebody did something that they perceived to be nice, for you? In actual fact you didn't appreciate the gesture at all because you realised it was more about them than it was about you? This way we can understand that sometimes what we think is making a deposit, is actually a withdrawal.
Truly understanding what is important to another person is a massive deposit and is the key to all the other deposits to. The main message for today is take your time to understand another person's viewpoint and what is important to them. If you can put your own agenda and autobiography aside and really take your time to explore how another sees this world not only will begin to make shift in your original, possibly rigid perception, it will also open the doorway to both parties getting closer and moving forward in a more positive light and connectivity.
Carolyne, NLP Practitioner